About six years ago, my ex told his now-wife-then-girlfriend and his best friend that all of his exes (all 7 or so of us) were “shit asses” and “crazy” while I was standing right next to them. We were all at a mutual house party and I was trying to…

Toxic Positivity is the new trend in therapy and it sucks. — It’s an irony that when we talk about mental health, we express how important listening skills are, yet in therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) seems to do the exact opposite. Being in therapy with a CBT practitioner can be extremely frustrating and it can make you feel unheard. The reason…

How trauma bonding masks itself as love and how it returns to haunt you years after breaking free — My dog died on March 7. It was pretty traumatic and not the peaceful passing I would have wished for her. A few days later, I texted my ex to let him know. I hadn’t spoken to him in about two years. We don’t communicate and it’s better that way…

You don’t gotta be White to practice White Savior Complex. — .Recently, I was given the opportunity to pre-screen the documentary Children of the Mist and then later on, sit in a Q&A with the filmmaker, Ha Le Diem. This film is being put up for Oscar nomination and has a bit of Oscar buzz. …

A list of amazing action movie ladies that came before JLaw — Recently, Jennifer Lawrence said on Variety’s Actors on Actors segment: “Nobody had ever put a woman in the lead of an action movie” before the role of Katniss Everdeen (Hunger Games). I think Angelina Jolie would have some things to say about that statement, considering many of Angie’s movies are…

This scene isn’t “fatphobia.” — I have body dysmorphia and have had two eating disorders (at different times in my life — one that I’m still struggling with now). At one point, I only ate 600 calories a day. Sometimes less. I also ran 6 miles a day, had a personal trainer 3 times a…

Resurrection Church in Boulder, CO is a cult that recruits college kids — You’re going to hell. In fact, we all are going to hell according to my sister’s church, Resurrection Church in Boulder, Co. If you do not go to their specific church and are their specific type of Christian, then you are going to hell. Good thing I don’t believe in…

Superficial beauty standards still rules Asia — Asia is definitely less progressive as far as social issues are concerned. Technology? They’re the best at it. Engineering? Toyota Prius is the most reliable car 5 years in a row. Social issues? Not so much. It’s slow-moving and that includes beauty standards. Thin is still very much in. Here…

People are ridiculous — I like to read “AITA — Am I the Asshole” threads on Reddit, and recently, I saw this one make the rounds. Successful_Peace_929 writes: “It honestly feels ridiculous that I have to post this but my coworker has been getting onto me about this for weeks now, so I have…