It’s warm, sunny, and balmy today and it reminds me of my first summer in New Jersey. I remember those endless summers. I was 18 and brand new to the NYC area and brand new to love. Dan and I were incredibly poor, both of us starting over in his…

Where to go from here. — I recently learned that my ex reads my posts. I write about a lot of things, but sometimes, I write about him because there’s so much damage there. I’ve held it in for years. I’ve always been a person who never wants to hurt anyone’s feelings. I suffer guilt really…

About six years ago, my ex told his now-wife-then-girlfriend and his best friend that all of his exes (all 7 or so of us) were “shit asses” and “crazy” while I was standing right next to them. We were all at a mutual house party and I was trying to…

Toxic Positivity is the new trend in therapy and it sucks. — It’s an irony that when we talk about mental health, we express how important listening skills are, yet in therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) seems to do the exact opposite. Being in therapy with a CBT practitioner can be extremely frustrating and it can make you feel unheard. The reason…

How trauma bonding masks itself as love and how it returns to haunt you years after breaking free — My dog died on March 7. It was pretty traumatic and not the peaceful passing I would have wished for her. A few days later, I texted my ex to let him know. I hadn’t spoken to him in about two years. We don’t communicate and it’s better that way…

You don’t gotta be White to practice White Savior Complex. — .Recently, I was given the opportunity to pre-screen the documentary Children of the Mist and then later on, sit in a Q&A with the filmmaker, Ha Le Diem. This film is being put up for Oscar nomination and has a bit of Oscar buzz. …

A list of amazing action movie ladies that came before JLaw — Recently, Jennifer Lawrence said on Variety’s Actors on Actors segment: “Nobody had ever put a woman in the lead of an action movie” before the role of Katniss Everdeen (Hunger Games). I think Angelina Jolie would have some things to say about that statement, considering many of Angie’s movies are…

Brittney Griner has been freed from Russian detainment, but before you applaud this, let’s break it down. The trade-off for Griner was to give Russia back an international arms dealer — a literal supercriminal who is dangerous to the stability of peace and the balance of power on the global…

This scene isn’t “fatphobia.” — I have body dysmorphia and have had two eating disorders (at different times in my life — one that I’m still struggling with now). At one point, I only ate 600 calories a day. Sometimes less. I also ran 6 miles a day, had a personal trainer 3 times a…