Turn on your captions and then go to 49:00 mark on episode 6. He clearly says, "Wait, wait...Daphne..." He's pretty much begging her to stop. She doesn't. It's rape.

In the book, in Chapter 18, he's drunk and asleep. She climbs on top. Here are bits from that scene in the book:

"He was in her control, she realized. He was asleep, and probably still more more than a little bit drunk, and she could do whatever she wanted with him. She could have whatever she wanted."

"Daphne had aroused him in sleep, taken advantage of him while he was slightly intoxicated, and held him to her while he poured his seed into her. His eyes widened and fixed on hers. 'How could you?' he whispered. "

"She wasn't ashamed of her actions. She supposed she should be, but she wasn't."

Stop the mental gymnastics. It's exhausting.